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About the Author:
So, Motivate! 8 Secrets of Successful Parenting was authored by Christian couples Peter and Deona Tan-chi. It was written after 40 years of intentionally parenting their children–the five of them. Now, their children were all happily married with children on their own.
I first saw Pastor Peter Tan-chi at Christ Commission Fellowship (CCF) church. He is the Founder and Senior Pastor of this church, a church- planting movement that has grown to over 70,000 members in the Philippines alone.
What enticed me to buy the book?
The first time he announced that this book is already available for purchase, I was already interested but I hesitated to buy it. In fact, it took me two months before I finally decided to purchase it (I’ll have to put it first on my wish list because it is also quite expensive, this is against my frugal endeavor). When I finally did, the book’s Php50.00 discount was already gone. I have to pay Php350.00 at the CCF’s Bookstore, hah! I regret having to lose my discount!
Also, I don’t like to buy it at first because I have the impression that this book would be like all the other books I have bough about parenting. You know, I am a wide reader and at this point I have done reading maybe fifty books about parenting already.
One book I have read before stated that there are plenty of books written about a certain topic only for the purpose of earning money. How? They just create books because it is required by their publishing company not because of conviction and real value for the readers.
After two months, though I finally give-in, I can’t fight the urge to buy that book (my Bibliophile nature calls me so). I bought the book and read it during break time at the office, while I am pooping and before going to bed. The time of reading varies depending on when I am available.
How do I find the book?
In one word, I’d like to describe it as VERY TRUTHFUL. I have gained some insights I have never found in other books I’ve read about parenting–being intentional, improving yourself (because you have much to improve), about moodiness which means being selfish, not putting premium over material things, practicing a one-man principle and more. I will not outline the 8 secrets here so you’ve got to figure that out when you read the book.
The book covers parenting for all ages, from babies up to the time when the children marries. Each chapter (each phase of child’s growth) is complete with the how-to tips on you should handle the situation.
What I like is the personal accounts and stories written by the Tan-chi family members to elaborate the point being discussed in each chapter. With their stories, you will gain knowledge on different problems children encountered as they grow like internet addiction, drug addiction, choosing a lifetime partner, choosing a career and facing family dilemmas.
You will also know here how to properly conduct a Bible Study for your children which I honestly like and practice with my two kids.
During reading, I actually laugh with them, cry at Joy’s Story and shared the ups and lows of their emotions. I’ve got to know them more in a deeper sense even if they don’t actually know me in person.
What is my verdict and will I recommend this book?
The 8 secrets mentioned here are not new to us. You can read them to any parenting books out there. What was different is on how the authors tried and tested and chronicle the results with their children. The result are children who fears and respect the Lord, children who are all successful in their chosen fields, and children who train their own kids as the way they are being trained by their own parents.
The authors put much effort as well on recording their experiences or perhaps recalling them to write the book. Actually, the real substance cannot be found in the 8 Secrets per se but in the content.
I stand by my belief that there is no such thing as a single formula for raising kids but I will give a thumbs up for this book for outlining the details of raising children.
I will give this book 4/4.
Who will benefit from this book?
If you are struggling with the step-by-step way of raising your kids and making sure that they follow God, this book is for you. If you love stories—love stories and true to life, this book is for you. If you are struggling on how to guide your children on choosing their lifetime partners, this book is for you. If you are facing family dilemma right now, like a rape of a child, you will gain strength and insights from this book. Lastly, if you doubt the truthfulness behind the resurrection of Jesus which is very important in our faith, this book also tackles that.
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Do you have a secret on parenting your children? Please share on the comments.